Teaching your baby to sleep alone is often a challenge. If your child is used to falling asleep in your arms, or to co-sleeping, this transition can be difficult. But helping your baby to sleep independently is essential to his well-being and development. This guide explains why your child may not want to sleep alone, and offers tips on how to create the right environment, establish an effective sleep routine, and support your child in a caring way.
Why does baby refuse to sleep alone?
Separation anxiety
Babies, especially between 6 and 18 months, may experience separation anxiety at bedtime. They begin to realize that their parents may move away, and this may provoke crying or a refusal to fall asleep on their own. This phase is normal, but can complicate autonomous sleep.Environmental and emotional factors
Nightmares, illness or changes such as the arrival of a newborn can also disrupt sleep. The child then seeks the security of its parents' arms.Parenting habits
Co-sleeping or falling asleep in the arms create sleep associations that can make the transition to bed more difficult. While comforting in the short term, these practices complicate independence in the long term. Understanding these habits is crucial to helping you adjust them gradually.
Creating an environment conducive to independent sleep
Gradual transition to bed
Opt for a gradual approach. Start by putting your baby's bed close to yours, then gradually move it further away. You can also have your child sleep in the crib during naps, to get him used to his own sleeping space.Creating a soothing bedroom
The environment plays an essential role. Make sure the room is calm, at a temperature of 18 to 20°C, and dimly lit. If darkness frightens your child, a soft nightlight can help him or her feel secure.Comforting objects
A comforter or a piece of clothing bearing your parents' scent can reassure your child and make it easier to fall asleep. These familiar objects offer a sense of security even in the absence of parents.
Establish a routine and encourage autonomy
A predictable routine helps your child prepare for sleep. A warm bath, the reading of a story, or repeated cuddles every night help him to understand that it's time to go to sleep. Repetition is key: by establishing a series of simple steps, you'll help your child get into bed without stress.
Encourage independence
Gradually reduce your presence at bedtime. If your child usually falls asleep with you by his side, start by sitting next to the bed, then gradually move away. The aim is for him to learn to fall asleep on his own.Persevere despite regression
Your child may sometimes seem to regress, waking up more often or refusing to sleep alone. Be patient and stick to the routine. Celebrate each small step forward, such as a full night in bed, to reinforce his learning.
